Healing Your Hurting Heart

Isn't it true that your emotions really take a knock when your heart is aching? Sometimes it feels like being normal again is a million miles away. The difficult time you encountered in the past can take a while to be released from your system.

It's definitely healthy to experience a range of emotions. However, it's unwise to have the negative ones consume your existence. You're better off working towards healing the hurt. That way, you can start to experience joy and happiness again.

Emotional healing is possible if you stop pushing the hurt out of sight and give yourself the space within to process the energy stored as emotion, in a way you may never have considered before, to let go of the hurt. As you'll see, during this process of self-healing some tough decisions may be required:

Remove negative influences from your life if they are are keeping you stuck.

If you're honest with yourself, you'll realise something important. Some of the negative influences may very well be the people closest to you! It's going to be a challenge separating from them even if it is only temporarily. But your emotional health during your journey back to wellbeing is more important that maintaining those relationships in the short term.

• Are any of your friends guilty of adding fuel to the fire? Can you identify times when they've encouraged you to avoid forgiving someone who offended you or play the blame game?

Accept responsibility for your actions.

It's pretty hard to look in the mirror, right? Deep down, you know your actions and the meaning you have attributed to them, resulted in the hurt you feel. But it's sometimes difficult to accept the part you played. We often hide behind blaming the situation, the other person or anything else, rather than acknowledging what happened, happened. What can I learn about myself from it?

• Face into your wrongdoings. Be courageous enough to accept responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

Live according to your moral compass.

You likely have a set of morals to live by. And while you know they exist, you may sometimes suppress them when making decisions, especially if those decisions are ones you "think you should" make rather that want to make.. Abandoning morals is the easiest way to fall out of alignment with our inner truth.

• Go back to your roots. Take a hard look at what really matters to you. Start to embrace those morals one by one.

Embrace daily renewal.

The journey toward emotional healing can be long and winding. It’s an endeavor that may require considerable time and effort, but it is entirely achievable. The key lies in committing to being present and open each day, allowing the day to unfold naturally rather than remaining trapped in old thought patterns. These patterns can deplete your energy, lower your mood, and shape your day based on past actions, losses, or relinquishments, instead of celebrating the current joys of who you are and what you have now.

• Daily renewal is the best way to turn your self-healing into habit. When you go for days without that renewal, without being present in the moment, without noticing, it's easy to slip back into the heartache. Be fair to yourself. Remember you deserve the healing.

Achieving emotional healing isn't an automatic process. It takes time and a lot of being present by noticing. Now is the time to really take care of yourself. Focus on what you need and ignore the noise around you. Use these tips to help you on your healing journey.